[CCHS] Support for a Grieving Adolescent

[Peter Badalament]

Dear Parent,

We are all deeply saddened by the tragic events that unfolded over the
weekend. Our thoughts and prayers go out to both families.

While many of the students are seeking and receiving support here at
school, I thought I'd provide you with a list entitled "Support for a
Grieving Adolescent." I urge you to talk to your son or daughter about
this incident and communicate to the guidance office any concerns you have.

I hope in some small way this is helpful to you and your family.

- Peter Badalament

SUPPORT FOR A GRIEVING ADOLESCENT
1. Show your support. Mention a particular memory of the deceased, if you
can. If you did not know the person who died, discuss the grief we feel
around losing a member of our community.

2. Be available. "Just remember that I'm here if you need me."

3. Acknowledge that this may be the first loss for some young people. In
that vein, they may be uncomfortable with or unclear about their grief
responses. "I get the sense these feelings are overwhelming for you.
That's pretty normal."

4. Avoid cliches, such as "Time heals all wounds."

5. Be honest. It is okay to say, "I wish I knew what to say." "I'm so
sorry." Your son/daughter will appreciate your honesty.

6. Understand that grief is a lifetime event, and there is not time frame
for a person grieving and mourning the loss.

adapted from Diane Moran's work, Program Coordinator, Metro Boston
Critical incident Stress Management Team



Peter Badalament
Principal
Concord-Carlisle High School
500 Walden St.
Concord, MA 01742
(978) 341-2490 x. 7110